Hiking with Chris is like hiking alone. Minus the red tights and blond hair, he's like Dash from The Incredibles. One minute you're walking side by side, and next thing you know, he's ten minutes ahead, nowhere in sight (he's even suggested that we invest in two-way radios). I've grown used to this, not taking it personally and using the time to have some conversations with myself. In the middle of such conversation on a recent tramp, I came across a kind elder man who thought I was out hiking alone and was shocked when I told him I was with someone. "That's no partner...you should reconsider." I started to give that idea some thought, but quickly grew to my senses when I saw Chris around the bend waiting for me, giving me words of encouragement.
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Sometimes we "elders" don't know what is right for you! And isn't it always the dilemma of a good relationship......how much quality time to be together and also have enough thoughtful alone time to consider our internal worlds? The dance of "differentiation" and "merger." The image you share is so personal and honest, Christina. Thank you. This is your journey. And it's truly all of our journey to find our way being close to and separate from our partner when we are with him/her and to hold that closeness when we aren't. FYI, Aunt Dottie and Uncle Dick are coming over tonight to celebrate their 60th anniversary! I know they still bless every day they wake up to one other. They continue to inspire the possibilities of long-lasting love and committment. Sending you a big hug and lots of love....
It's something none of us has ever really understood... yet another mystery of the man.
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